Red Flags: Longing gazes at wedding-dress magazines, a season pass for TLC's A Wedding Story on her Ti Vo, or hours and hours of inane wedding talk while on the phone with her friends all signify you've got a future Bridezilla just dying to get behind the veil. Suggest a ménage à trois-or float the idea of an open relationship.Make sure you tell her it's your life goal to "experience" many people. Then she's slipping her hands into your pockets-and reaching for your wallet.Unless this person has had a good amount of therapy and personal growth since the last relationship, a series of broken relationships or marriages may indicate that he or she doesn't know how to have a loving relationship. The person was abused as a child and has not had therapy or done sufficient inner healing work. Without an openness to learning about themselves and you when there is conflict, there is no way to resolve conflict. The person participates in addictions that are unacceptable to you -- smoking, drinking, drugs, addictive eating, gambling, TV and so on.
The red flags, shared through Reddit, ranged from a lover who wanted to install a GPS program on their partner's mobile to the way others spoke about or treated their exes.Very often, when the person I'm working with has moved ahead with the relationship, one of these issues -- which might not have seemed huge at the beginning -- becomes a major problem leading to the demise of the relationship. As you read this list, don't just focus on the other person.Below is a list of some of the red flags I've discovered. Some of these items might not be deal-breakers for you; if the issue is okay with you, then there is no problem. See if you can identify personally with any of these red flags. The person comes on strong at the beginning of the relationship, and tells you exactly what you want to hear. Narcissists can be very intense in their pursuit, and many of them have learned exactly what to say to pull you in, such as, "I've never felt as connected with anyone else as I feel with you," or "You are the most amazing person I've ever met.One woman was listening to a man talk about how all of his ex girlfriends were crazy, when she interjected to ask what he'd done to make them so angry.'He admitted to me he suspected his girlfriend was cheating,' Reddit user Jenthrowaway4theday wrote, going on to reveal that he exacted revenge by having sex with her younger sister.It was the man's girlfriend's reaction that appeared to convince him she was the crazy one, as she sent him angry texts and yelled at him when she found out.'First and last time I ever talked to that guy,' the woman wrote.Domestic violence encompasses a spectrum of behaviors that abusers use to control victims.