You’ve only had impure thoughts, which is a crime punishable by no one but ourselves. It’s totally normal and fine to have these feelings! I just want to know what she’s been up to.) You appear to be suffering from what my ex calls “theory guilt.” You haven’t done anything wrong. Every person in a committed, monogamous relationship experiences pants-warming feelings for people who are not their partners at some point, as I’ve said before.I have a wonderful girlfriend and we have been together for three years. I don’t want to sleep with every hot girl around, but in the past three years I have seriously wanted to ravish a total of three girls. Three outside-relationship boners x 1,095 days (that’s three years) / all the sex you’ve had with your partner = .0000048375 (approximate guilt level). A world of good those two feelings have ever done for anyone! Namaste**.”**The Non-Serious Lesbian in me just threw up a little. If you want to be with this gal for the long haul (and she sounds pretty great, amiright? I envision a long-term future with her, however, I can’t help but have these desires to sleep with other women. And honestly, you’ve only wanted to “ravish” three people in three years, which is 1) adorable (I picture bodices being ripped off very slowly and in a frustrated manner) and 2) such a small number that it should be measured in decimals and not whole numbers if we were using math to validate our sexual desires, which, to be clear, we ARE. What you should do is accept that we all have feelings, and sometimes those feelings are inconvenient because we can’t do anything about them or they don’t align with our “long-term future” plans, or they are just stupid feelings* (tired and cranky, for instance.On the other hand, your relationships can be less complicated because both you and your partner are intimately familiar with what being a woman is like.As you venture out in the dating world (or re-enter it as a newly single person), keep these seven dating tips in mind to ensure maximum success.
“There are still a lot of women out there who value the traditional way of dating,” says Lesley, 36, who jumped online out of curiosity.
It starts to become natural the more that you do it – just like driving does – yet it also mimics traditional dating more than you would think.
“There’s still that view that a guy should approach a girl first,” says Jenny, 43.
I have asked my girlfriend if she would consider an open relationship or a threesome, but she has declined. You’re not a horrible human being for having feelings for someone who is not your “picture perfect” girlfriend. ).*The Serious Lesbian in me feels compelled to add, “There are no ‘stupid’ feelings. The fact that you’re still having sex after three years is practically reason enough for me to be like, “Hold on to that one!
I don’t know why I have these feelings and it makes me feel like a horrible human being, especially since my girlfriend has no desire to sleep with other women. ”), then you have to let go of that one-boner-per-year crush that you lust after (or relegate her to the realm of fantasy and call it a day).
Many people aren’t sure exactly who they are, and that’s perfectly normal. Knowing what you want means you can be upfront with potential suitors and have a better chance of achieving your desired results – whatever they may be.