He insisted that he wasn’t racist but speaking from the heart, because in his childhood, race relations were more tense and “mixing” was less acceptable.
I was I shocked by his admission, and also hurt by the full brunt of his ignorance.
Have you subscribed to negative stereotypes about your own race?
A couple embarking on an interracial partnership must prepare themselves for curious stares and racist comments you have never before experienced. If you are not a strong person - mentally and emotionally - then interracial dating is best avoided.
Not to say that race matters but at times it comes into play when there is culture involved, for example a Muslim woman dating a white man or an Asian man dating a black woman. Our race communities have a difficult time wrapping their heads around the thought of loving someone outside of his/her race.
As they walk down the street people stare or laugh – share whispers and ask rude questions.
Even so, I have experienced opposition to interracial relationships firsthand.
The white, male father of a friend of mine once described my relationship with my white then-boyfriend as an "upgrade" for me, and a "downgrade" for my ex.
Enduring the unkind words of disapproving family, friends, and society (including those at work) may be too much for a new couple to bear.
These people will question your motivation for pursuing a mixed-race relationship.
Each client paid five dollars and answered more than a hundred multiple-choice questions. (A previous installment had been about a singles bar—Maxwell’s Plum, on the Upper East Side, one of the first that so-called “respectable” single women could patronize on their own.) She had planned to interview Altfest, but he was out of the office, and she ended up talking to Ross.