But let’s not generalise gay behaviour by what happens on social networks.
Surely within the 10% of the population assumed to be gay, there are a few gems out there.
Bumping into that person you were flirting with last night? Santa Monica, Venice, Hollywood, West Hollywood, Hermosa, Silver Lake, Beverly Hills, Pasadena, Sherman Oaks, or Downtown... You have to be careful who you smile at, wave to, or approach and ask "do I know you?
My body, one that developed a little too early, and my personality-- the kind that had a smart mouth who'd grown up around two older brothers, had clearly done something to ask for it, right? Although I never saw the man who violated me again, he continued to send me birthday presents every year until I turned 13-- and then he just stopped.I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year-olds in the ‘burbs, 40-somethings who find your taste in music “refreshing,” addled idiots writing “id fck u,” and a handful of age-appropriate, nice-looking guys who can string some sentences together and like to cook. You set up a profile, pick some cute photos, write something witty about the things that you love (Beyonce, Hillary Clinton, Battlestar Galactica), list some books you like, and then sit back, kick your feet up, and wait for the messages to roll in.”In the gay world these days, you would be forgiven for thinking that a well-angled selfie of a healthy looking body is given greater weighting than values, goals and personality.Single gay men often come to me feeling that online dating is far too sexualised and focused on ‘hooking up’ and are doubtful that any like-minded men are out there looking for a long-term relationship.You will try to split it, but he will pay, and you will stand to re-wrap yourself against the frigid wind.