I need ideas and advice as this is the first time I've gone on an outing with a girl I really like.“I need to know when should I say ‘I love you.’ I’ve been seeing a guy for 3 months now and neither one of us has said ‘I love you’ yet.Too often, those precious words are uttered not to in return.The beginnings of new relationships often do make people feel on top of the world.Saying “I love you” too soon, or when you know your significant other is still cautious about the relationship, can do more harm than good. There’s no need to spill the beans on a Jumbotron — this isn’t a (tacky) marriage proposal. Or maybe when you’re going for a stroll around the block. The number-one rule: Don’t say it if you don’t really mean it. Don’t say “I love you” for the first time when you’re intoxicated, scared that you’re about to break up, hoping it will help you get farther physically in the relationship, or feeling competitive with an ex. Do you see yourself with this person in five years?
It’s on the tip of your tongue, but you’re not sure if the timing is right.The clichéd advice is to say it to yourself (and mean it) before saying it to someone else (and mean it).As Donald Kaufmann says in Adaptation, "You are what you love, not what loves you."Be the thing that you love and ask for nothing in return.I’m pretty sure he’s feeling it and I know for sure that I love this guy, but I don’t want to mess things up like last time by saying it too early to a guy who’s commitment-phobic. Everything fell perfectly in to place and then I ruined it by saying I love you and he bailed before I could finish the sentence.I don’t think this guy is afraid of commitment, but the last guy I dated was great. I don’t want to wreck another great thing by being too forward. ”Notice I said, “For most guys.” It sounds like the previous guy was the cat’s meow until you made things all serious on him.Find other ways to declare your feelings for your boyfriend or girlfriend and when the day comes that you and your love commit to get married, exchanging those three little words will be a heartwarming memory to treasure.