So for a marriage that meets the requirements of being a sacrament, divorce in the Catholic Church is not possible.The annulment process is by which a marriage is determined whether or not it is valid, it is not a Catholic divorce process.My main concern, when trying to find more useful information to build my case, is this: are the “standards” the same for both Catholics and non-Catholics—unity, indissolubility, the good of spouses and having children?What if a non-Catholic at the time of getting civilly married does not know the full information about how Catholic Church views marriage?We would like to think there are no victims and no one is at fault, and that the people involved should just be able to peacefully move on, but that is not the reality.The reality is you are in a drama that probably will never end.I am dating a good Catholic man who is divorced and has a son.I am a Christian who is becoming Catholic (I’m in RCIA) who was also married before and have a daughter.
In going thru an annulment process with a tribunal, it is not a given that the outcome will be dissolution or judgment of invalidity. The tribunal process is a looking back at the exchange of vows to see if there was some impediment preventing them from being really free to make this decision even if they thought they were ready to undertake it.We were friends through his divorce and starting dating after his divorce was finalized. I love him, but have apprehensions about my ability to deal with this kind of drama. It probably would not surprise you to know that there are many Catholics in similar situations.I have believed God brought him into my life, but I am starting to wonder if God has something else in mind. Divorce is an ugly thing, no matter what angle it is approached.The reason for this is that the Catholic Church recognizes any marriage as valid until proven otherwise.That’s the case for two Protestants or two Hindus as well as for two Catholics.Whenever you are involved with someone who has a past of any kind, in this case a past marriage, you are taking on all the people involved as well, and the history.