More often than not, dating opens women up to a world of confusion that too often ends in hurt. He may also want to have life experiences or work on himself first before he gets into a serious relationship.”The second time I heard a man say he couldn’t be a boyfriend, I was actually relieved.Your typical meet-cute begins with an ambiguous “hangout,” and as time goes by, it becomes increasingly unclear whether you and your guy are just really close friends or taking things slow. Timing plays more of a role than not being ‘good enough’ for a guy. Burned by my last experience, I saw it as a warning and promptly cut off the flirtation with no wounded pride. If you find yourself or a friend in this confusing Neverland of a dating situation, learn from my mistakes.He wants something deeper than a physical relationship, but at the same time, he enjoys playing the field.Despite all of the possible reasons, if a guy says he does not want to be in a relationship, he means it.Of course, there are possible explanations to justify his behavior: Maybe he is under a lot of pressure at work; maybe he was hurt by an ex; maybe he is terrified of commitment.
While I wouldn’t suggest pure silent treatment, allow for some space between you.“Women sometimes think, ‘If he sees how awesome I am, he’ll change his mind and want to be in a serious relationship with me,’” Chlipala shares.Surely, he cares about you, enjoys his time with you and does like you. Maybe he is incapable of liking someone past a certain point.Maybe he just likes to have control over his own emotions.Friends flow in and out of my day-to-day life in a continuous and unpredictable stream.One leaves for Germany, another has a light quarter, and the inevitable scattering that the summer brings hangs over all of my relationships like a time bomb. Strange then, I realised recently, that I have rarely been properly on my own.