When I first got braids a couple of months ago, I was riddled with compliments.
It was a huge change from the curly auburn afro I’ve been rocking for the past few years, so it was easy enough to see why people were excited about the change. Getting weird looks from old white people walking down the street.
Interracial relationships, once a source of angst and fear in America, are now commonplace. Census Bureau estimates that interracial marriages accounted for slightly less than 15% of all new marriages in 2008. Are black women less marriageable than women of other races? The primary reason so many Black women are single is that they believed they should marry only black men, thus millions of black women were oblivious to the interest expressed by men of other races.
I could never date outside of Black men, I thought. My two closest friends were shocked but very supportive and liked him a lot. I remember the first time it was brought to my attention. When I would experience “exotic otherness” at work, I would talk to him about it and he would suggest that I was overreacting when I knew I wasn’t.The negative portrayal of Black women in American media as exotic sexual wild women has also impacted Black women’s willingness to date men of other races.It’s only logical that she may initially be somewhat distrustful of your motivations for approaching.Gregory Carr, and wore an ankh on my body every chance I got. Though I find Black men physically attractive, what I really, really find attractive is the unspoken understanding that exists between me and a Black man of my choosing. I expressed my desire to keep it quiet at work and Mazzi agreed, so we went. He brought up the subject of a relationship and I retreated.I love not explaining why I tie my hair up at night, or that my skin would burn in beach sun without sunblock. I’d talk about my reluctance to get in relationships (which was true) and he didn’t push the issue. His family was really sweet to me and always invited and included me when going to dinners or family parties.The well-known incidents, frequent until only recently, are now isolated events.