And, in the city, they're changing even faster than usual.Our hyper-distracted temperament, grass-is-greener FOMO, and impatient demands to get everything, like, yesterday are rewriting the rules of dating quicker than you can say "swipe right." What was once an afternoon (fine, a lonely Sunday evening) spent trawling Ok Cupid is now a five-minute Tinder blitz during a treadmill run. Boundaries are being crossed, rubbed out, and re-drawn.
Add in ultimate trust - respect and honesty, and of course, sex at least once a day, if not more. I had a dog once, We didn't seem to argue, never got mad when I worked late, never questioned me about what I was thiking, never accused me of complicated plots I could never have come up with, never accused me of having another dog, didn't mind the underwear on the bathroom floor, never left toothpaste in the sink, never ran up my credit cards, never made me sleep on the couch, always liked to be petted, always loved to play ball, always looked happy when I came home.
We command instantaneous communication, real-time news, and 24/7 information, and our dating attitudes now reflect the same warp-speed principles.
It’s no coincidence that so many of our Tinder profiles declare that we’re not looking for a pen pal; we’re looking to get to the point, because we don't have time to waste. With a social-media-enabled world out there offering new matches and distractions, waiting three days, or even 24 hours, to reply to a text is as antiquated as sending a carrier pigeon.
Even people raised on a confused diet of Germaine Greer and It might be a more business-minded approach, although that needn’t be a bad thing.
Rachel Mac Lynn, MD, founder of exclusive matchmaking agency, The Vida Consultancy, cut her teeth as a business psychologist and incorporates that ethos into her workings. You need to really define what that goal actually is. Whether it's IRL, online, or mobile, multi-dating is the new normal.
Moving too fast Always be sure to watch the speed of the relationship.